Similar to magic, a woman has her world; so beautiful so mysterious. But as not every person appreciates the magic and the mystery behind it likewise not every man admires or understands the magical powers of a woman. Mostly somehow reluctant in due understanding with an open mind and heart. Have you ever given it a second thought if you fall in the category of those who simply don’t confess then this piece of writing is for you. The purpose is not to convince you but just to make you realize that you can enjoy life even more if you know the enchantment.
Woman in most corners of the World has been blamed as either silly or dump, for example at workplace females are considered to come in deception and tricks, and if she is managing their home as a housewife she is considered worthless, as if she is “free” and has nothing to do as worthy. Isn’t that unfair?
The truth is, a woman is destined to perform both feminine and masculine roles. Today’s era is making a woman like a ping-pong who unfortunately back and forth between both genders.
Let’s take an example from a few Bollywood movies and those push me to write something not only on the hidden expertise of women but on Women’s influence on Men; let’s discuss them. The movies are, “Hate Story 2“, “Kahani” and “Ek Villan”. The first two movies revolve around revenge; the revenge of a woman and how worst she can do with those who tear down her reason to smile, to shine, and to live.
In the first movie named “Hate Story 2“, the power-packed corrupt politician (Mandar) is habitual to treat both his wife and so-called beloved rather mistress so harshly and offensively. Predominantly, he exploits and forces his mistress to do everything for him without her will. She is badly under his impact physically, emotionally, and psychologically that she couldn’t even breathe without his will; though she is a young inspiring lady and a professional photographer too, named Sonika. She finds consolation in photography where she meets her love, Akshay. The movie possesses a terrific variety from passionate love-making scenes to high-voltage revenge drama and an enthralling account of a woman’s grudge against the man who wronged her. After the murder of her beloved by him, the vengeful woman decided to take revenge. She took it in a true sense. That’s how we can sense that woman is even worse than man when it comes to settling scores. She won the game, surprisingly with the help of Mandar’s wife. There we know the power of a simple household wife. I always say that one should not take his wife easy. If a man doesn’t want people to take him easy, then he must show the same attitude toward his wife. This is not just a common phenomenon it’s one of the strongest beliefs that man will get his counterpart exactly like him. So apparently looking simple, innocent and so-called dump wife can be even stronger than her husband. So never degrade the power of a wife and try not to challenge her via your judgmental parameters. She can surely stand with you in every situation and on every ground but for that first, you need to be with her in every hock & crock.
The second movie mentioned above, named “Kahaani” is a terrific Spy Thriller movie and again the story of a woman’s revenge. She came to her home country in Kolkata from London in search of her missing husband. She seeks help from bureaucrats intelligence departments, police friends, etc. but unfortunately failed to find him as he was dead. Though the basic plot involves a pregnant woman and her hunt she was a spy herself and that’s how you find the ultimate mystery at every step of the movie. The whole case in the film unfolds systematically and logically. She came to take revenge for her late husband; who died in a terrorist attack in the city. The saddest point is that she lost her baby as she was pregnant. So, not just a widower of a loving & caring husband but a mother who lost her baby decided to pay back. For this, she arrives in Kolkata with the mellow drama of pregnancy and pregnant Vidya Balan grabs the attention as well as sympathies of viewers; but no one can predict the “layered affair” reveals at the end. The story takes a very impressive turn in the climax when she meets the main terrorist and killed him very impressively & aggressively and we came to know that she was not pregnant at all. We remain attached to the lady not only because of the mystery but emotionally on top. The beautiful blend of her feelings and emotions helps us to understand the multi-dimensional features of this multi-tasking creature; from inside she is deeply hurt and emotionally scattered rather emotionally weak but from outside she is very well composed and brave enough to tackle the circumstances well. Though you will miss the bed bits in the movie you will certainly appreciate the engrossing role of Vidya with so much of a feminine feel.
In the third romantic, action-packed thriller movie named “Ek Villan“, we came to know so many different faces of women. The movie’s tagline was against the standard rather typical template of most Bollywood movies, a hero, a heroine, and a villain; and that’s the best part about the movie. Here we have two villains and one is the real hero. The sensational and weaving high-octane moments around characters keep you close to them. The story is about a couple, true lovebirds, and their bloody conclusion by an unknown man who brutally murders his wife (Ayesha). The murderer is not just a frustrated husband but a serial killer who, after killing Ayesha, goes back and spends the usual day. However, he does not know that the woman he murdered is the wife of another crazy killer (Guru) who shall now retaliate and can kill his wife, his love, at all costs. The movie has extremes from tender love moments of the couple to humiliating murder scenes of women in particular.
We can draw many conclusions and lessons from the story; the very first is ladies that should not indulge in any type of argument with unknown men outside, no matter how rudely they treat them. These men can insult and disrespect you and can even threaten your life.
Besides, I just love the theme, the phenomenon that an angel-like woman can make her man a real man. On the flip side, a devil like a woman only via a few little impolite and foolish acts makes his man devil in a true sense. Sorry to say guys but in most of the movies and at times in real life as well, it seems that man is just a dummy character in the hands of women around him, especially in the form of mother and wife those who are responsible in making and transforming his attitudes and behaviors. No doubt man’s fate is in God’s hands first and then man makes his fate. This is what we know since our childhood but while watching such real examples it seems that a man’s fate is in the woman’s hands in addition, to the woman of his life. In the role of mother and wife, she can magically mold his mind and heart. Man’s initial phase of life is almost totally dependent on his mother’s hand and later on, he badly needs his wife to play quite a few important roles.
In my observation, in quite a large number of married and strongly committed couples; man expects their woman to play mainly three important roles. First, he wants to see a glimpse of her mother in her woman. This hardcore man always wants to be treated like a baby. You may have heard that every adult keeps a child inside him/her but this suits best men. So after this motherly behavior as a pampered child, man wants to see his wife as a true housewife. Who can manage his home as a perfect way to define him and can easily transform his home through her magical stick into the Disney “Home sweet home”. A wife, who can walk with him on social and religious grounds and look good while being with him to fulfill all the parameters on social grounds being his legal wife, and last but not least, who can be the world’s best mother for his kids.
Thirdly, every man no matter belongs to any class badly needs her wife to perform a role of a girlfriend or a whore for him. In his bedroom, he wants to see an ultimate woman sometimes like a helpless goat and sometimes like a wild cat.
The truth is a woman is magical but not mysterious at all, she is like e bright mirror that can reflect everything back but for this, you have to be clear to her. She is spreading her magic with her love, colors, smiles, tenderness, touch, and sincere prayers. If you are on a journey of self-exploration then you can find peace, and the ultimate comfort zone in the world f a soulful woman with your loyalty; and that’s the top most things she desires, loyalty.
(Written on September 2015)
